Build your Network with the Right Kind of Apples
Prioritize quality connections over quantity. It's important to be selective about who you include in your professional circle.
An apple a day keeps the doctor away.
Or, as I like to say, a connection a day keeps isolation at bay.
But who are the people we really want in our network?
I try to avoid using 'good' or 'bad' labels for professionals because people are complex, and everyone brings unique perspectives and potential.
Instead, I will distinguish between network connections that are fruitful and those that are less so.
In other words, let’s look at network connections in two ways: the good apples and the bad apples.
🍎 THE GOOD APPLES
We should prioritize nurturing specific 'apple' types to strengthen our networks.
For example, the fresh, shiny, and sweet apples.
Fresh Apples
Fresh perspectives are essential to the growth of our network.
A perfect example is college students.
Recently, a student studying AI joined my network.
He shared a wealth of information and provided key insights on the AI revolution.
We can unlock new potential by adding innovative thinkers to our network.
Shiny Apples
We should also value professionals who bring a positive and dynamic energy to our network.
These bright and charismatic individuals bring us:
Inspiration - Their enthusiasm and optimistic outlook can motivate us to pursue our goals and overcome challenges.
Energy boost - Interacting with lively individuals can uplift your mood and energy levels, making you more productive and engaged in your work.
Resilience - They often possess a resilient mindset, which can help you navigate setbacks and maintain a positive attitude in difficult situations.
These professionals frequently have a vibrant and engaging presence.
Sweet Apples
We can never have enough of the genuinely nice and consistently positive members of our networking groups.
They're known for their kindness and optimism.
Working with them often results in:
Stronger Relationships - Nice people are more likely to build genuine relationships that can lead to valuable connections and opportunities.
Increased Referrals - Optimistic individuals are often more willing to share their network and provide referrals.
Supportive Environment - A network of nice and optimistic people can provide a supportive environment that offers encouragement and guidance when needed.
Surrounding yourself with positive people can have a significantly positive impact on your own mindset and well-being.
Furthermore, building relationships with nice and optimistic people can contribute to a happier and more fulfilling life.
🍏 THE BAD APPLES
Crab Apples
Pessimism can create a discouraging atmosphere for everyone. A negative outlook has a ripple effect that can affect the entire group.
People with a negative mindset can hinder group progress.
Negativity is infectious, so choose your company wisely.
Rotten Apples
A rotten apple can spoil the whole barrel.
Professionals exhibiting misconduct, dishonesty, or a lack of ethical integrity should be avoided.
Your reputation can be tarnished by your associations. If you're seen associating with someone known for unethical behavior, others may assume you share those traits.
Furthermore, people may question your judgment and trustworthiness if you maintain relationships with dishonest individuals.
Poisonous Apples
In the worse-case scenario, corrupt professionals can destroy your entire network.
I once was part of a thriving networking group that was “poisoned” by a toxic member, leading to the downfall of the entire group.
Corrupt professionals exploit positions of trust to undermine the integrity and stability of a business network.
Their actions can have far-reaching consequences, including financial losses, reputational damage, legal liabilities, and the destruction of valuable business relationships.
🌳 APPLES DON’T FALL FAR FROM THE TREE
People tend to resemble their close associates, particularly those in their immediate professional or social circles.
Individuals within a network often share similar values, work ethics, and business practices. If you network with someone known for integrity and diligence, there's a higher likelihood that their connections will also possess those qualities.
Conversely, if you associate with individuals who have a poor reputation, others may assume you share those negative traits.
The result?
When a respected professional recommends someone, it's often assumed that the recommended individual will also be competent and reliable.
This is because people tend to refer others who reflect positively on themselves.
By focusing on building relationships with individuals who align with your values and goals, you can create a network that supports your professional growth.
Your network is a reflection of yourself and the quality of your connections can significantly impact your business success.
🧑🎨 THE ART OF APPLE PICKING
Picking the right connections in professional networking is crucial for career growth. It's not just about collecting a large number of contacts, but about building meaningful relationships with the right people.
This is how it is done:
Define Your Goals
What do you want to achieve? Are you looking for mentorship, job opportunities, industry insights, or potential collaborations? Having clear goals will help you focus your networking efforts.
Identify your target audience. Determine the types of professionals who can help you achieve your goals. This could include people in specific industries, roles, or with particular expertise.
Seek Out Relevant Individuals
Industry professionals - Connect with people who are working in your field or in fields you aspire to enter. Attend industry events, conferences, and online forums.
Mentors - Find experienced professionals who can provide guidance and support. Look for individuals who have achieved what you hope to achieve.
Peers - Build relationships with people at a similar career stage. They can provide support, collaboration opportunities, and valuable insights.
People with complementary skills - Networking with individuals who have skills that complement your own can lead to valuable collaborations and partnerships.
Alumni networks - If you attended a university or college, leverage your alumni network. These connections often share a common bond and are willing to help fellow alumni.
Focus on Quality Over Quantity
Build genuine relationships - Networking is about building authentic connections, not just exchanging business cards. Take the time to get to know people and understand their interests and goals.
Offer value - Focus on how you can help others. Share your knowledge, expertise, and resources.
Be selective - Prioritize building relationships with individuals who are genuinely interested in connecting and who align with your values and goals.
👀 FINDING THE APPLES OF MY EYE
The ability to discover and nurture high-value career connections is vital. For most of us, finding those few key connections that are extremely important to our careers is paramount.
Identifying exceptionally valuable connections involves a blend of strategic action and genuine relationship building.
Although the process is different for everyone, it’s worth the effort.
When was the last time you checked your ‘apple tree’ to review your network connections?
How do you like them apples?
Have a great weekend!
- Mike
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I love the apple analogy, Mike! It's a refreshing perspective on networking. I especially resonate with the idea of focusing on ‘fresh,’ ‘shiny,’ and ‘sweet’ apples. Building meaningful relationships rather than collecting contacts is key to creating a supportive, valuable network. I also appreciate the reminder that our network reflects our own values, which is crucial for long-term success. I’m going to review my 'apple tree' and be more selective moving forward. Thanks for the insight!
Great content, Mike! Greetings from Brazil 🇧🇷